The girl who's "out" and so far "out" it seems impossible she could be anything else, because that's how she chooses to define herself.
Then there are the people who seem to step around conventional social status entirely; the ones who exude intrinsic status and can flow seamlessly among groups and be included quickly and easily wherever they see fit.
These are the people we're talking about when we talk about ultimate social calibration; these are the folks who've stepped off the ladder and come up with a different way for moving socially.
Let's start by talking about what status is good for.
Status is one of those things that most either hate or chase after when they don't have it, and most others hate or jealously cling to when they do.
Generally, you'll see these kinds of feelings about social status: People don't usually stop an analyze these thoughts though, of course; they just have them.
Beliefs about the nature of social status are among the core beliefs that most people never stop and consider.
It's quite rare to hear someone in metacognition inspecting his own views on status; our position socially and our view on our status and that of others is so core to how we identify ourselves that we rarely question it.
For most people, their view of social status is just "how things are," and any view anyone else might hold to the contrary is, of course, clearly misguided.
But the world, as it turns out, isn't black and white, and neither is social status. It's just a tool, and it's a tool that, if you know how to use it properly, you can maximize its benefits while minimizing its drawbacks.
Social status: it's more than just something you get or don't get, have or don't have.
Lots of people don't see it that way, though; they tend to think of social status as simply a dividing line between the people who are "in" and the people who are "out." The line, though, is not so clear.
And even within the "in" and "out" groups, you can point out distinctions: the guy in the "in" group who's really only in it because he has some connection people need, otherwise they wouldn't include him at all; the girl who's "in" more than her girlfriends, who are kind of just along for the ride with her.
The guy who's "out" but still has connections in the "in" group and only seems to be "out" by choice.