Feminist values, they point out, do not preclude reacting with temperance and emotional independence to an initial attraction (on the part of a woman).They also cite that discipline and consideration inform the actions which create egalitarian relationships. In 2001 the follow-up book The Rules for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work was released in the midst of Fein's legal separation from her husband to whom she had been married for sixteen years.
Proponents of the methods offered in the book point to The Rules as having positive results for both men and women.
They represent the point of view that men enjoy being the aggressor and are inspired to treat women better who choose behaviors which set up boundaries and slow down the courtship process.
Advocates also elucidate that a woman making herself easily available to men may increase her chances of being unconsciously or unscrupulously taken advantage of or abused.
By applying a deliberate approach to relationships, Rules champions suggest, a woman has the time and space to discover and reflect upon the character and actions of a man she is dating.
Fein married for the second time in 2008; she had followed The Rules to attract her second husband, with the exception that they dated for three years rather than one (as “The Rules” advises) before becoming engaged.
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Others noted that Fein was an accountant and Schneider a freelance journalist without professional qualification in the subject matter.
Fein married and divorced, and has recently remarried. The authors admitted they were not professionals in an appearance on NBC's The Today Show.